X Marks the Spot on Mitzi’s House

Posted by Mitzi Gresham on Nov 10, 2010 in Daily Bread | 3 comments

I like to write to the Single Ladies because….well….I’m single. I like to share things that all singles think or deal with. And this is just one of the kajillion things us single ladies think about. In 8 months, 4 days, 9 hours and 13 minutes I’m turning the oh-so-very-exciting-fantastic-not-freakin’-out-at-all age of *cough cough* 29! ok…*cough cough* 40!!! With that comes thoughts of “will that twinkle in my eye only be the reflection of the sun on my bifocals?”, “will the idea of weightlifting simply be standing up?”, and “Will I get ever get married?” A good friend recently asked me, “Mitzi, are you praying specifically for that and for that man?” uhhhh….yeah…not so much. And when you start to think more on the fact of wanting to get married you start to hate being single. Pish Posh!! Why do I get into these “funks” about being single?? I mean, it’s what He wants for me right now. If it weren’t….then I’d be married!!

Here is a story i ran across recently that hit both those subject. You think it’s a coincidence? I’m going to share a little of the excerpt here. After reading it, I encourage you to consider how feeling abandoned and like crud because you’re still single can be battled through faith in PRAYER. I’m challenged to do the same myself.

I haven’t written much about my single days. Although they are rapidly growing smaller in the rearview mirror of life, I don’t think they will ever completely leave me. For one thing, God used my single days to shape my faith and theology. There is nothing like being single against one’s will to make you consider all kinds of important theological concepts – God’s sovereignty, God’s will, God’s goodness, etc. It then follows that some of the greatest lessons God has taught me about himself were born out of the anguish of my singleness. And I do mean anguish. I know some people skip through their single years without much thought about it, but I was one of the group that struggled mightily with being single and the possible implications in my life.

Another reason I don’t think my single days will ever leave me is because my experiences have made my heart tender towards other singles. I remember what it was like and my heart goes out to them. After having struggled to learn contentment as a single and then experiencing the great joy of a blessed marriage, I want it for them too! I’ve seen both sides – the yearning and the fulfillment – and I so want them to experience the depths of peace and joy that come from a marriage blessed by God. But I remember the overwhelming sense of “What if?” that comes to a single because there is no guarantee that marriage will eventually come. And that is so hard.

One thing that was pretty consistent throughout my single days was praying for my husband. That might sound like an obvious statement, but I didn’t just pray for a husband, I prayed for my husband. There is a difference. I prayed for his purity, for his spiritual growth, and that God would drop an “X marks the spot of Sallie’s house” map in his living room window. Ok, maybe not the map thing, but I did pray a lot for his spiritual well-being.